Mental Health

How to attract what you really want in life

Written by Louise

I watched a video this morning. It was about a multi-millionaire who started out life in the most abject poverty and succeeded in creating a dream lifestyle for himself and his family by using the internet to get rich. It was one of the most inspirational stories I’ve ever come across.

And it got me thinking …

I’m somewhat familiar with the Law of Attraction (which is either a powerful natural law or a load of mumbo jumbo, depending on your perspective) that basically says whatever you focus most of your thoughts and energy on is what the universe gives back to you in terms of experience. It isn’t some mythical, religious or weird New Age spiritual thing either. The science behind it (as far as I understand it – I haven’t studied it in depth) is that everything in the universe is energy. Apart from the obvious – light, heat, etc – even solid physical objects are made of energy. It’s just moving so slowly that it’s taken on solid form.

I don’t pretend to know how any of this works … only that – sometimes – it seems that it does.

Over the years, I’ve been in some pretty dire financial situations, but I learned at some point that however bad things got, something always came up. If I had a bill that I absolutely had to pay, but just couldn’t, some unexpected money would come in. (I even once had an unexpected tax refund that was within a few pounds of the repair bill for my car.) I started to get blase about financial difficulties, shrugging my shoulders and saying, “Something always comes up.”

And, funnily enough, something always did.

That’s pretty much how the Law of Attraction works, and this is where people struggle. To use it effectively, you need to have confidence in it. It isn’t enough to say, “I know the money will come along to pay this bill,” while inside you’re thinking, “Oh shit, oh shit! What am I gonna do?” You’re putting out far more panic-energy than confidence-energy, and the universe will respond in kind.

But how do you have confidence in something when you don’t have proof, from your own, personal experience that it works?

The ‘gurus’ – yes, there are Law of Attraction gurus – will tell you it’s about being grateful for what you already have, and I think they may be onto something.

The man in the video – I got a preview of it, but I’ll post a link to it when it goes live – said people always assume his life must have been very bad when he was a child, but they’re wrong. He spent his first few years of life living in a one-roomed village house with no electricity, no running water, and a lean-to outside where the whole family went to the toilet on the floor and covered it with dirt. Moving to a run down, grimy part of a city felt like living in paradise because they had a flushing toilet!

And this is what the gurus are getting at, and it’s what people don’t understand when they try to make the Law of Attraction work for them. It isn’t about the feeling of wanting something; it’s about the feeling that you already have it. The man in the video felt rich, and he started earning money by accident, from a website he had created as a hobby.

And I wonder if this is why so many of us seem unable to achieve the things we want in life. We start out from a place of dissatisfaction rather than gratitude. Our focus is on what we want rather than what we already have.

I notice this in my own life. When my thoughts are focused on how lucky I am to live in such a beautiful place, to have the opportunity to care for the animals who love me, to be able to pay my bills without undue difficulty, and so on, everything in life seems to run smoothly. As soon as I start thinking about things I lack – the freedom to travel, the money to set up my animal shelter, a human companion to love – life starts to get really difficult.

When my mind is focused on plenty, the universe delivers plenty.

When my mind is focused on scarcity, the universe delivers scarcity.

And that’s how the Law of Attraction works. It’s about being grateful for what you have.

But sometimes that can be bloody difficult!

(Photo: I have figs. How can anyone be thinking about scarcity when they have a fig tree in their garden? The big fig in the foreground is one of the early ones. The smaller ones are the eating ones, and they’re ripening nicely. It won’t be long now and they’ll be ready to eat …)

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